By Shingirai Hwande
2018 Men’s Symposium at Alphonsus House, Tafara.
CATHOLIC men from Redemptorist parishes gathered on the 1st of December this year at Alphonsus House to share and exchange ideas on various issues which affect men’s life at a symposium organised by the Redemptorists Lay Collaborators (RLC).
The symposium was celebrated under the following theme: “Men as role models for the youth in this year of the youth.’’ The theme was chosen in line with the recently held ‘Synod on Young People”
“Speaking of 2018 being the Year of the Youth, many of you will be aware of the recently concluded Synod On Young People which was held at the XV Ordinary General Assembly of the Synod of Bishops in Rome,” said one of the organisers of the event, Innocent Magaya, in a statement he read on behalf of the chairperson for the Redemptorists Lay Collaborators, L.T Manatsa.
Young people who were mainly drawn from the Redemptorists parishes were given the opportunity to share their thoughts at the symposium since it is a year dedicated to the youth.
One of the youth from St Clement Centre, Miss Polite Muwengwa told fathers: “We expect you (fathers) to serve us in difficulty times.’
However, Muyengwa also told fathers to consider gender equality when raising children.
“We expect you (fathers) to treat us (girls) equally with our brothers since we are all children,’ said Muwengwa.
Muwengwa’s call for gender equality came at a time when various local civic organisations called for gender equality and women’s empowerment. The country also showed its commitment to promote gender equality by enacting a National Gender Policy.
Another young woman from St Gerard’s parish, Gamuchirai Mbetu, who is also a lawyer, told men what is expected of them.
“Men should provide their children with love, care and support,” said Mbetu.
She also encouraged men to spend time with their children and also to give them (children) space for self-thinking and creativity.
Mbetu also noted with concern that some men just came in as ‘biological fathers’ without giving care to their children. She told men to take part in raising and nurturing children.
However, in the process of raising and nurturing children, one of the presenters, a PHD student in USA, Father William Guri C.Ss.R, encouraged men to seriously consider the ideal of ‘ubuntu’ or ‘unhu’.
“Ubuntu means I am, therefore we are,” said Father Guri.
The ideal of ubuntu was popularised by a South African Nobel Peace Prize winner and anti-apartheid activist Archbishop Desmond Tutu.
Father Guri reminded men that ‘unhu’ or ‘Ubuntu’ forms the basis of African spirit and unity and should not be taken for granted.
“Hunhu hautengwe, hunodzidzwa,’ said Father Guri in the words of Sabhuku Chivhunga.
However, Father Guri told the symposium that Gender Based Violence is one of the biggest threats to the ideal of ‘unhu/ubuntu’. He is also noted with concern the prevalence of GBV in Zimbabwe, Southern Africa and the entire world.
“The majority of perpetrators of GBV are men,’ said Father Guri.
He also told the forum that GBV indicated a crisis in men’s relationship and that all men should stop practising Gender Based Violence. He further stated that Gender Based Violence is most prevalent in the SADCC region and in many parts of the world.
Father Guri’s call to end to Gender Based Violence came at a time when Zimbabwe had just participated in ’16 Days of Activism against Based Violence.’
However Father Guri also raised the issue of men’s health as something important.
“Men’s health is critical and integral to human health,’ said Father Guri
In addition to the men’s health concern raised by Father Guri, one of the medical doctors, a consultant urologist, Dr S.C. Meki, elaborated more on men’s health. Meki encouraged men to protect themselves from prostate cancer by taking care of their reproductive system.
“Black men are at more risk of contracting cancer,” said Dr Meki.
The symposium ended with a mass followed by a social gathering and networking. The Spiritual Director of the Association, Father Joseph Musandemi, said mass together with Father Guri.
The idea of men’s symposium is a brainchild of the Redemptorists. The first symposium was held in 2017 at Arrupe College now Arrupe Jesuit University, it was attended by more three hundred men.